“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown
A lot of us are not living our full potential due to fear. Whether it be a lack of confidence, or the “what ifs.” “What if it doesn’t work?” “What if I fail?” “What if I did something wrong?” Our thoughts are so powerful that it can make or break you. Needless to say, these thoughts are perfectly normal. It’s the beauty in us of being human, we’re not perfect which makes this journey in life a bit more “exciting.”
Why is it that we live our lives with fear?
Think about it. Your whole life you’ve been exposed with media, the internet, peoples lives, your parents, family members, friends etc. When you turn on the TV you’ll see the latest breaking news and usually it’s something about a crime/murder/bankruptcy/celebrity break ups/ etc. Those are all negative stories that’s storing in your brain. It’s the same thing when you’re having dinner with a family member and they tell you about them losing their job due to higher competition. What does this all do to you? It influences you to think of all these bad things happening in life, which then creates that “fear.” I’m sure there’s been times where you or someone will say “Hey, I heard in the news that there was a shooting in the mall. We shouldn’t go to the mall any more.” OR “Doing real estate is bad right now because it’s not stable. Avoid that at all times.”
How do you overcome this?
Shift Your Thoughts and Your Lifestyle
- You have the power to change your thoughts. Sure, you’re going to be tested with all the exposure, which is normal. Instead of thinking “What if this happens, fails, goes bad, etc. etc.” shift your thoughts to “What if it succeeds?” “What if I had the time of my life by doing it?”. Simply alternating your thoughts can make a huge impact with fear.
- Spend time with people that want to grow with you. Over the course of years, I’ve learned that your influence makes a huge impact in life. Whenever I spent time with someone that just kept complaining about life, it would just bother me and I would start doubting myself. However, when I spent with people that were so happy, and wanted to live their life; I would also then get motivated to live my own life.
- Personal Development. One of the biggest things that I’ve lacked was personal development. In order to face your fears, you have to work on yourself. One way of doing this is by creating a list of things that you’re lacking. From there, you work on it by reading books, going on YouTube and just by applying. You can read all the books in the world to get better, but if you don’t practice what they preach, then you’ll never grow.
- Begin to have that imagination. Start dreaming, and visualize the happiness within yourself. Work on removing the what ifs, and the fear. Stop worrying, and visualizing nightmares and start to visualize all the fun things in life.
I always tell myself that I live my life once. Am I going to live my life with fear? Or am I going to grow old one day and reflect that I lived my life to the fullest? Live your life with no fear and regrets.